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What To Do If Your Employees Hate You

Crystal L

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You recently realized that your employees hate you. Maybe you caught on to little clues, like they avoid you, tense up when you’re around, or can’t maintain eye contact when speaking with you. Or maybe, like some of my Los Angeles executive clients, people lodged complaints against you with HR or other managers shared feedback that people dislike you.

It’s never a nice feeling, to be disliked (or event hated). You could easily dismiss it as a personality mismatch or working with idiots. After all, you’re the boss, and your employees should just get in line and do their job. Who cares if you’re well-liked? Continue reading →

Supporting College Readiness

Crystal L

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As a psychologist known for assessing and supporting college readiness, I receive calls each summer from anxious parents. They’re worried that their college-bound child might not be ready for college. Honestly, I wish more parents reached out to me (and earlier). Why? Because, sadly, many of these teens aren’t ready for the independence of college. Continue reading →

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How to Be Alone When You Hate Being Alone

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There are so many different reasons people may hate being alone. For one person, boredom creeps in and she doesn’t know how to entertain herself. For another, negative thoughts intrude and he thinks about all of his regrets when he’s not busy and occupied. Someone else feels deep, depressing loneliness when she’s alone. 

Whatever the reason, here are five ways to learn how to be alone, even if you hate it:

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Saying Goodbye to Your College-Bound Kid (Part Two of Three): The Day Of

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The day of college drop off is filled with a swirl of competing emotions– you’re proud of your emerging adult, and you’re going to miss them like crazy. You’re happy… and you’re sad. You see your child becoming an awesome adult, and you wish you could hold on to him forever. This video will give you three main considerations for the day of college drop off. Continue reading →

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Saying Goodbye to Your College-Bound Kid (Part One of Three): The Summer Before

Crystal L

Saying goodbye to a child heading off to college is bittersweet. You are so proud of your college-bound child. All the tough years of parenting have paid off, and you’ve successfully gotten your child to the next phase of their development. You’re also a big mess because you’re going to miss your baby like no other, and the house will not feel the same without him or her there. There will literally be an empty space where he or she once was. It’s totally natural to feel full of joy and dread at the same time.

It’s a rollercoaster ride of emotions that can be broken down into three phases:

  1. Before the Drop Off
  2. Drop Off Day
  3. After the Drop Off

I’ll help you navigate these turbulent waters in this three part series. Today’s post will focus on “before the drop off”.

Key takeaways:

  1. Don’t take it personally if your college-bound kid is picking fights, not spending time with you, or being generally difficult to be around. They’re trying their best to figure out how to let go. Sometimes that means making things miserable so it’s easier to say goodbye.
  2. Use the summer to plant seeds about things you think your emerging adult is going to struggle with. You can drop little hints about helpful campus resources, time management, etc. But don’t lecture! This will just annoy your child.
  3. Take time to process your own feelings regarding your baby leaving for college. Don’t live in a state of denial and then unload all of your heavy emotions and anxieties on your emerging adult on drop off day. That’s too much baggage to unload on your child during an already stressful transition.

 

Worried about your child’s transition to college? Contact Dr. Crystal I. Lee for a free 20 minute consultation to see how she can help.