Parents often ask me how they can convince their teenager or emerging adult to go to therapy. Before broaching the idea with your child, first reflect on if it’s necessary to convince them to attend therapy. If the answer is yes, here are seven tips that may help you get your child’s foot in the door.
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Too often, parents’ reminders to their teens and emerging adults are met with eye rolls, exasperated sighs, and frustration. If you keep these five things in mind, you’re more likely to keep your positive relationship with your child intact… even while giving those necessary reminders! Continue reading
It can be frustrating and bewildering when your grown child still lives at home with you. You’re not quite sure how to help them become independent enough to leave the nest. Here are six tips to help you! Continue reading
Fear of failure can hold back even the most capable of our teens and emerging adults. Though fear of failure is rooted in deeper issues that should be addressed in therapy, there are three things you can do in the meantime to address it. Continue reading
I’ve heard mixed thoughts from parents about using living agreements with their emerging adult child living at home. Some say that living agreements feel too business-like and cold. Others report that the living agreement didn’t work. There are many that swear by using one. Most parents are willing to give it a try, but they aren’t sure how to go about forming one.
I’ve done parent workshops on this topic numerous times. I thought it’d be helpful to take my 1.5 hour-long workshop and distill it into a mini 15 minute webinar style training. I’ll explain why a living agreement is important, what areas you should consider setting boundaries around, and the five essential principles of creating a living agreement. Continue reading
It’s one of the most common complaints I hear from parents: My teen or emerging adult has no motivation to do anything! That’s almost never the case. Usually what’s happening, is your teen or emerging adult has motivation to do things that are not aligned with what you want them to do.
So what do you do? Watch and find out!
Supporting an emerging adult’s transition to independence sometimes feels like a tightrope balancing act. Provide too much support to your child, and they become too dependent on your assistance or become resistant and resentful. Don’t provide enough support, and they may never successfully make it out on their own! Coupled with the fact that the transition to adulthood seems to be getting pushed later and later, this balancing act can feel uncomfortable and foreign. Here you have a person needing your help at an age where you had everything pretty much figured out. Continue reading
I’ve been a one-woman crusader, educating people in Los Angeles about emerging adulthood and its implications on young people’s lives. I’ve seen the “aha!” moments when describing this new developmental period to parents, professionals, and emerging adults . Something clicks and everything is seen with a new, helpful perspective.
Need some support with your iGen tween or teen? Contact Dr. Crystal I. Lee for a free 20 minute consultation to see how she can help.