There’s a lot of pressure on teens to “succeed”, and sometimes there’s equal pressure for parents to raise kids that succeed. However, this pressure is leading teens to burn out and falter. You’ve seen the signs that your teen is over-scheduled and stressed out. So now what? There are five concrete ways you can help your teen. Continue reading
Today’s teens, especially where I am in Los Angeles, are often over-scheduled and stressed out. Their schedules are packed with extracurricular activities and endless homework. Instead of getting much needed sleep every night to recharge for the next day, teens stay up late trying to finish homework and study for tests. Even the most capable high-achievers begin to crumble under the pressure. Your formerly kind, calm tween transforms into a tangled ball of stress, anxiety, irritability, and heightened emotions.
The decision to withdraw or transfer colleges is a big one! If you’re struggling with what to do, try asking yourself these six questions first. Continue reading
It can be frustrating and bewildering when your grown child still lives at home with you. You’re not quite sure how to help them become independent enough to leave the nest. Here are six tips to help you! Continue reading
Sometimes our teens and emerging adults are just straight-up challenging. They do things that get under our skin and frustrate us to no end. Your relationship strains and worsens over time, and soon you’re not sure what to do to make things better. Here are eight things you can do to handle your child’s challenging behavior while maintaining a positive relationship. Continue reading
We adults are very wise. We have the benefit of hard-earned life lessons and perspective. So how come every time we try to impart some wisdom, our teens and emerging adults shut us down? In my experience from working with parents, usually there are a few things that can be in play. Here are 5 mistakes parents tend to make and how to fix them so your teen or emerging adult actually hears what you’re saying. Continue reading
When overwhelmed with emotional pain, you need a way to untangle from it so you can better manage your feelings. If you stay completely absorbed by your negative emotions, then it’s more likely to snowball into stronger and more heightened negativity. Grounding is a set of strategies to help “ground” you back to the world around you. Instead of getting lost and overwhelmed in your head thinking about the past or future, it brings you back to present reality. Grounding has been shown to help people better regulate their emotions. Continue reading
The typical mood swings and hardships of adolescence or emerging adulthood can sometimes make it difficult to know if this is typical of the developmental period or if something is wrong and needs to be addressed by a professional. This video gives you two things to consider before deciding to have your child see a therapist.
Fear of failure can hold back even the most capable of our teens and emerging adults. Though fear of failure is rooted in deeper issues that should be addressed in therapy, there are three things you can do in the meantime to address it. Continue reading
I’ve heard mixed thoughts from parents about using living agreements with their emerging adult child living at home. Some say that living agreements feel too business-like and cold. Others report that the living agreement didn’t work. There are many that swear by using one. Most parents are willing to give it a try, but they aren’t sure how to go about forming one.
I’ve done parent workshops on this topic numerous times. I thought it’d be helpful to take my 1.5 hour-long workshop and distill it into a mini 15 minute webinar style training. I’ll explain why a living agreement is important, what areas you should consider setting boundaries around, and the five essential principles of creating a living agreement. Continue reading