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24 Ways to Ground Yourself When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

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When overwhelmed with emotional pain, you need a way to untangle from it so you can better manage your feelings. If you stay completely absorbed by your negative emotions, then it’s more likely to snowball into stronger and more heightened negativity. Grounding is a set of strategies to help “ground” you back to the world around you. Instead of getting lost and overwhelmed in your head thinking about the past or future, it brings you back to present reality. Grounding has been shown to help people better regulate their emotions. Continue reading

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How to Effectively Communicate Your Concerns

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There are times in everyone’s life where they need to share their concerns or assert a boundary. You don’t want to be submissive, and you don’t want to be aggressive. Finding that perfect balance to achieve effective assertiveness can be difficult. Thankfully, using the “DEAR MAN” method can help you effectively communicate your concerns with friends, family, and coworkers. Continue reading

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How to Be Alone When You Hate Being Alone

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There are so many different reasons people may hate being alone. For one person, boredom creeps in and she doesn’t know how to entertain herself. For another, negative thoughts intrude and he thinks about all of his regrets when he’s not busy and occupied. Someone else feels deep, depressing loneliness when she’s alone. 

Whatever the reason, here are five ways to learn how to be alone, even if you hate it:

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Forget Networking! Try Connecting

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I will be very honest. When I was earlier in my career, the word “networking” felt slimy to me. It brought up thoughts of people using one another, connecting superficially, and being glib. It was the exact opposite of what I liked to do, which was to authentically connect with others and develop relationships with people.

As I progressed further in my career, I realized that I was thinking about networking too narrowly. Yes, for some people, it is just a business transaction, but it didn’t have to be. I broadened my view of networking and began thinking of it as connecting with others and building a professional community. Now I love “networking” because I approach it genuinely and with openness.

I did it by doing five simple things, and it made all the difference. Continue reading

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What Self-Care Is (And Is Not)

For better or worse, self-care has become a buzzword. On the positive, people are becoming more aware of the importance to take care of one’s self. However, self-care has become a seemingly empty trend that fuels a massive, monetized industry. People are losing sight of what self-care actually is, which is leading to empty self-care practices that are not healing and energizing. Don’t buy into the hype!

Watch on to see five examples of what self-care is… and four examples of what it definitely is not. Continue reading

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Top 5 Ways to Bomb Your Next Job Interview

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Interviews are the time to really shine and win over your new potential boss. This is your first real impression, and you want it to be positive. I originally wrote this article many years ago after going through a hiring process where I interviewed dud after dud. A shockingly high number of people forgot basic aspects of interviewing. And it makes a big difference. If I only have 30 to 60 minutes to get to know a person, you better believe that I pay attention to all the data at my fingertips! Continue reading

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10 Ways to Build Resilience

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Did you know that one in four college students struggles with their mental health? This is not a surprise, given how stressful college can be. Students leave behind the familiarity of home and their established support systems to live and learn with a bunch of strangers. This is why I speak at conferences and write about the importance of preparing for the transition to college. It’s also why building resilience is so important. Continue reading