Parents often ask me how they can convince their teenager or emerging adult to go to therapy. Before broaching the idea with your child, first reflect on if it’s necessary to convince them to attend therapy. If the answer is yes, here are seven tips that may help you get your child’s foot in the door.
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Too often, parents’ reminders to their teens and emerging adults are met with eye rolls, exasperated sighs, and frustration. If you keep these five things in mind, you’re more likely to keep your positive relationship with your child intact… even while giving those necessary reminders! Continue reading
There’s a lot of pressure on teens to “succeed”, and sometimes there’s equal pressure for parents to raise kids that succeed. However, this pressure is leading teens to burn out and falter. You’ve seen the signs that your teen is over-scheduled and stressed out. So now what? There are five concrete ways you can help your teen. Continue reading
Today’s teens, especially where I am in Los Angeles, are often over-scheduled and stressed out. Their schedules are packed with extracurricular activities and endless homework. Instead of getting much needed sleep every night to recharge for the next day, teens stay up late trying to finish homework and study for tests. Even the most capable high-achievers begin to crumble under the pressure. Your formerly kind, calm tween transforms into a tangled ball of stress, anxiety, irritability, and heightened emotions.
Sometimes our teens and emerging adults are just straight-up challenging. They do things that get under our skin and frustrate us to no end. Your relationship strains and worsens over time, and soon you’re not sure what to do to make things better. Here are eight things you can do to handle your child’s challenging behavior while maintaining a positive relationship. Continue reading
You may have read my previous article about shifting from a punishment mindset to a learning mindset. In it, I talk about the benefits of parenting from a learning mindset. I share about the power of using logical consequences. However, in that article, I didn’t talk about natural consequences, which are another powerful tool for learning. Continue reading
I’m throwing out a challenge to all parents: the next time your child makes a mistake or a poor choice, instead of punishing your child, try implementing a logical consequence.
You might look at my challenge and think, “this is just a matter of semantics” (and it kind of is because, in psychology, a punishment is a type of consequence). What I’m really trying to do is shift your mindset from one of frustration, anger, and disappointment to a mindset of learning and growth. Continue reading